Overpraised ’80s kids, stunned by criticism in college and at work, are ill-equipped to cope. Andrea Sobel shudders at those oh-so-positive messages aimed at boosting kids’ self-esteem. She has heard her fill of ââ?¬Å?good jobââ?¬Â or ââ?¬Å?great pictureââ?¬Â or any of the highly exaggerated claims that parenting experts and educators spouted as the way to bring up well-adjusted children.